Wednesday, April 08, 2015


The ability to forgive is the closest we get to perfection - Adura Ojo

So I've been thinking about forgiveness. A lot. I've also been thinking about what creates the need to forgive in the first place. Pain. Emotional pain. Life is so often a mirror of  actions, experiences and emotions. Sometimes we stumble on truth when we hold up a mirror to other people and let it reflect back at us. This is what I did yesterday. Many things in life can cause pain. Here I choose to focus on emotional pain, the pain we feel when someone hurts us. So lets look at emotional pain and what I stumbled on.

1.. Pain is poison. It limits potential, kills harmony, feeds fear and hatred. Pain can be so deep that everything the person touches is tainted by it. Every opportunity, trial, success, failure.

2. Pain diminishes its victim. It steals from the person's life chip by chip, but adds nothing.

3. The acknowledgement or approval of the person who inflicted the pain is not needed. You do forgiveness for you. Your life. Your peace. Your potential.

4. Pain taints us, it makes us sick. Forgiveness restores, it heals us.

5. When we forgive, we should forgive fully to release grace into our lives and for our healing to be complete. This means forgiving every single person who has hurt us.

6.  DIY detox 'forgiveness therapy' at least twice a year is a good idea. Sometimes we hold things against others and we are not aware of it or the fact that it is holding us back. A self imposed detox allows us to address this and let it go. I opt to do this by reflection every three months. Another option is to do this with a therapist.

7. The antidote to emotional pain in our lives is forgiveness. We forgive because in doing so we eradicate the poison of pain. The universe is once again open to us to realize our grace and full potential.

Step by Step: Whitney Houston

When You Believe -  Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey

To 'someone' and a few others. I have 'someone' to thank for being the inspiration behind this post. It was 'someone's' observation - that I seemed to be focused on a particular subject - that got me thinking. The irony that 'someone' inspired the post is not lost on me. I did hold quite a few things against 'someone'. In the end nothing matters except our ability to soar above it all as best as we can, that we would live the life we are meant to live, not the one we force upon ourselves.

©Adura Ojo 2015


  1. Forgiveness frees up spaces in our hearts for love. Thanks for sharing this post, and all the best as you heal and grow in forgiveness!

    1. Those spaces are important! Love is light and lightness personified. Thanks, Blogoratti.

  2. I love your quote. I learned a long time ago that forgiveness is not for the person who wronged us, but for us, the wronged. We need to forgive in order to have peace, in order to let go. Understanding that lesson has changed my life and has allowed me to let go of the anger and no longer harbor animosity.

    1. It is well with you, sis. The burden to 'not forgive' can cause more harm than the offence. Most people don't realize this until it is too late.

  3. Inspirational enough to be a forgiving person

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  5. Blessings....
    I like that quote "The ability to forgive is the closest we get to perfection " It is the only thing that truly allows us to move forward in a healthy state of mind and being.
    A couple months ago i wrote about forgiveness, it really is key to living ones live in a forward positive motion. Check it out when you get the opportunity,

    1. When we fully understand the concept of forgiveness, it really is freeing and healthy. It moves us to where we need to be in our lives.

      It's always a pleasure to see you here, sister. I will check out your post. Hope you will follow me at my new home. Many thanks for your support over the years.

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  7. Psalm 130 verse 4 But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared.(KJV) Matthew 5:22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. {Raca: that is, Vain fellow}
    23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;
    24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
    25 Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
    26 Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.

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